Love Is Not Easily Angered

Before you disqualify yourself or your partner, hear me out. Have you ever noticed that those who are closest to you are more likely to see the sides of you that no one else will ever see? There's a popular saying that "familiarity breeds contempt" - according to the Oxford Dictionary, this proverb means that, extensive knowledge of or close association with someone or something leads to a loss of respect for them or it. Do you remember when you were dating your spouse or when you were just friends and you liked them (ALOT), an di love jus a bubble ova ina yuh heart? When they could do nothing wrong simply because who they were in your eyes was perfect. But then the more you got to know him or the moment you got married, the more his not so perfect ways became evident and you can't help but wonder, who is this person!? When your spouse changes in your 'eyes' oftentimes how you respond to him will change too. This is why it is important to have reasonable expectations not just of your spouse, but of your children, extended family and friends, and "make room for each others' faults". Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Ephesians 4:2 NLT The person(s) we say we love or choose to set our affections on should be the key beneficiaries of our patience, kindness, understanding, and respect. If you feel you've gotten short-tempered with your spouse, assess how they have changed in your eyes and try to have conversations that can get to the bottom of the issue(s). A lot of what leads to contempt are simple misunderstandings that we didn't take the time out to see from the other person's perspective or find solutions. If possible, get counseling! Having someone who can look at the situation objectively and guide meaningful conversations that lead to solutions is priceless. Finally, if you or your spouse were always short-tempered toward the other from the beginning of the relationship when you had the twinkle in your eyes, consider the possibility that your definition of love may be flawed. The good news is, it's never too late to make a change. #MarriageMonday #LoveWins #LoveisNotEasilyAngered